The decision to divorce when children are involved not only affect each spouse but also the children and will impact the present as well as the future for all family members. For many children, their parent’s decision to divorce will affect their life on a daily, weekly or bi-weekly manner. During divorce, children of all ages need their parents to lay aside their differences to focus on how they will co-parent effectively in order to meet the children’s personal needs now and through maturation in addition of how everyday life should be decided for the best interest of everyone. If parent’s cannot accomplish this task due to the lack of cooperation of the other spouse or the inability to reach a compromise, then the court system usually steps in to make these decisions for the family in which they must abide.
Through my years of work experience, I have witnessed so much hatred between parents that they lost insight into creating a positive future for their children. It seemed as if their only aim was to antagonize each other while the best interest of the children became lost on the family’s radar screen. When this occurs, the lack of insightful decision making for the children’s future is impossible and the children are left at the mercy of the court to help plan their everyday life and hopefully make considerations to meet their individual needs.
When parents are contemplating decisions toward proposals for their parenting plan, it is wise to treat this emotional aspect of divorce as a business transaction. If one of the parents were establishing a new business, he would not take the advice of one professional of how to organize, set goals and establish their business, rather he would research alternatives, the cost of decisions both emotionally and financially, and reflect upon making the best decisions in order to make his business flourish. The same principals must apply in writing divorce proposals and finalizing divorce agreements.
Divorce and custodial care for the children go hand in hand, therefore, learn how to have a business/divorce plan that will work for you. A balance for emotional outlets is important and they must not cloud the divorce proposal and decree, thus affecting everyone’s life.
Through the divorce process, you are only responsible for your actions and making sure that your decisions are made informatively, without emotions. Keep your thoughts grounded in the best interest of your family by separating emotional feelings and the business of divorce decisions is imperative. Make sure that your children’s best interest is on your radar screen now and a clear path is created for their future.
Your children are entrusting you to keep their interest at heart even though this is a difficult time in your life. Divorce Tool Box understand the difficulty of balancing emotions while making informed decisions. Visit www.divorcetoolbox.comtoday to see how our online sessions may assist you during this process.